Ever wonder why people get “stuck?” Is it fear of change? Staying in the comfort zone of what you have gotten used to, even if it’s not really what you want and dream of? How do our stories maintain illness? Listening to the internal critic and pessimism, resigning yourself to helplessness, in effect giving away your power to change? Or maybe it’s blaming someone or something for holding you back- not enough time, money, energy, nobody helps you, somebody is keeping you this way, believing things are static and can’t change, this is just the way it is?

There are many ways people can give away their power, the power to change, to create something new, to feel or think the way you really want to, to act differently or react differently.

Our stories about ourselves, our children, and our lives are very powerful. They inform us about how to think, feel, and act. They tell us what we can and can not do. We tell our stories to others who will listen and agree with our story. If they didn’t agree, or offered another explanation, it is as if they are denying us our reality, the one we are invested in, perhaps the one that explains why we have no power to be different, to feel different, to think and act differently to get a new outcome. So we tend to seek those who agree with us, and become angry with those who do not, denying their message and our own power for change. This is tribal power. This is how we maintain our “illness.”

Children learn this from us at an early age.

“He makes me get mad and have a fit.”

“My parents don’t let me play enough video games and just leave me alone, and that’s the only thing that makes me happy, I can’t live and be happy without them, my parents just want to control me, I’m miserable because of my parents, or because of school.”

“I can’t stand it when things aren’t fair.”

“School is just too boring. I can’t do it.”

“I can’t concentrate because I have…(ADHD, don’t care,…”

“I’m just lazy, that’s why I don’t do homework.”

“My parents care more about ________ than me.”

The list goes on and on.

You can also learn how to catch unwanted negative language in your thoughts.

I’m excited for you to use this process by challenging yourself with this free course here to make yourself a hero and start a better journey. Learn more about how do our stories maintain illness. Look out for your next step tomorrow in your email box. Become the hero you were meant to be.

Brad

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Power in Adult-child Relationships

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Everybody wants to know what is going on with kids these days. Why are so many becoming oppositional and disrespectful to parents and teachers? Do kids have the right to say NO? What rights do they have? What power do they have other than to say NO? Has something changed that makes them feel as if they have no power, or all the power now? What about the impact of technology and the spread of ideas about human rights and abuse of those rights, the way governments and dictators can systematically abuse a population of people?

Children used to perform more valuable and meaningful duties around the house and farm, how does their activity contribute now, in what way can they perform socially relevant work? How do they conclude that they should not be bothered with chores, that parents are there to serve them and entertain them? How has our culture changed?

Yet if they can’t say NO then who are they? How does this balance with adult responsibilities to look out for their best interests, which may not be what they want at the moment?

Here is what you should be getting:

Today: Empowering or Controlling?

Day 2: How much power do you give them, and how do you handle arguing/disagreements?

Day 3: How do you shut down and ignore to protect yourself from your children?

Day 4: What would you like your children to remember about you?

Day 5: Do you use your power to oppress or liberate?

Day 6: Resources to deepen and broaden parenting skills and knowledge

Day 7: Power-up phrases to use with kids

Day 8: More reading for you, articles and topics of special interest to help children

To sign up for the free course: click here.

The course is created by Brad Mason, LPC, LSSP, owner of the Family Counseling Center in Georgetown, Texas, author of the intensivecareforyou video course series, several books, and workshop presenter. I’m offering you a free mini-course, Power in Adult-child Relationships, containing some of the content from my next book, My Power Book.

I would certainly appreciate any comments or criticism I can use to make my book a better tool and a better read for my audience. Soon I will also offer additional free courses; Balancing Power in Adult Relationships, Personal Power, and The Power of Story Exercise. More about that later. You can also find mini courses, Behavior Management Tips and Tools Giveaway, and the Mindgarden course, which is for use in teaching children the power of thought, how to avoid negative thoughts and make positive ones, and how not to give away your power to some teasing bully or not getting your way to decide whether you feel okay or not. Find these and tons of pdf forms and templates for helping kids who struggle here.

Most of the materials are appropriate to use with children on the autism spectrum and/or with ADHD since these are what I specialize in with my private practice.

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