Trouble communicating with someone who seems to have a bit of autism or aspergers? I got a call from an old friend who works in the financial industry. He said he had a client, who he thought might be on the autism spectrum, and he wanted tips on how to communicate effectively with his client. […]
Angry Refusal to Accept Responsibility
Is angry refusal to accept responsibility or blame an artifact of ADHD, Autism, or Narcissism? It breaks your heart to see someone who never learns from their mistakes. They simply can’t or won’t see their own role in the trouble they get into. What’s really weird is when you see them do the error or […]
Oppositional-defiant disorder where does it come from?
Do you get faced with Oppositional-defiant disorder behavior, or ODD often? Ever wonder where it comes from? I think we sometimes influence kids to act this way by the way we interact with them. Our conventional wisdom about discipline dictates we pay attention when they misbehave. What does the child who doesn’t sit still and […]
Teach emotional control and the power of thought
How do you teach emotional control and the power of thought? https://vimeo.com/131704250 It can be tricky to teach children emotional control. Trickier still to teach them how their thoughts can create fear, sadness, or anger. How do you help them understand that they don’t have to believe all their thoughts? Our brains are making thoughts […]
ADHD Child’s Self-esteem
ADHD Child’s Self-esteem How we wreck kids from the inside out https://vimeo.com/160608811 ADHD child’s self-esteem, how do we keep it up, and what tears it down? “Worst Grandfather in the World” is what I call the story in the second half of the video above. This is a true story, and I wish it was […]
Calming Jar Meditation Tool
Here’s a fun activity creating a way to distract and focus a mind stirred up with chaotic thoughts and feelings, hopefully before things get out of hand. Calming Jar Meditation Tool: These are really fun to make. For a few more ideas about quick and easy ways for people to meditate, go here and click […]
How do you get the anxious child to use coping strategies?
How do you get anxious kids to use coping strategies? Check out the video: Here’s what I see in my practice. Avoidance of the triggers. Which is fine, except if the trigger is school, homework, or social settings. Avoidance is problematic because it is reinforcing- it works. It can be difficult to get the anxious […]
Have enough strategies for kids who struggle? ADHD, Autism, Anger, Anxiety, Giftedness
Silly question, right? How can you ever have enough to stop the madness when it comes to the ways adults often interact with children who have differences? We can make it better. We can train adults in more loving and effective methods, and we can teach children emotional coping skills, social skills, and better ways […]
Harness the power of stories to help people heal and get unstuck
Ever wonder why people get “stuck?” Is it fear of change? Staying in the comfort zone of what you have gotten used to, even if it’s not really what you want and dream of? Listening to the internal critic and pessimism, resigning yourself to helplessness, in effect giving away your power to change? Or maybe […]
Autism Aspergers Syndrome PDD-NOS book excerpt
Autism/Asperger: Understanding from the Inside Out Autism Aspergers Syndrome PDD-NOS Book I read some years ago in my NASP(National Association of School Psychologists http://www.nasponline.org/resources/ ) handbook that “autism is a lifelong disease. “ I think this is misleading from two standpoints. First, it’s not a disease. It doesn’t get worse as time goes on, it […]